Not again...

So I got called a Stalker again.  Not one of my finer moments, I hate when I hear that word, especially when they're applying it to me.  I was chatting with an acquaintance who referred to me as 'Stalker Fred'.

Okay...what can I say, sometimes when I'm attracted to someone I become a big dork, being shy, and not really knowing how to express myself around them.  But I hardly think that qualifies me as a Stalker.  Sure, if I see the person, I will say 'Hi', and have a conversation with the person.  I may even pay them a compliment.  But I don't follow them home, sort through their trash, hire P.I.s to follow them.  Heck once they're out of site, they're basically out of mind. 

Over time, I've often said that most people don't deserve the energy that true stalkers put into stalking.  I've had a brush or two with beauty and fame, and let me reassure you that those two things are no guarantees of stability, compatibility, feelings of security and self-worth, or happiness.  Folks either with, or actively pursuing those things tend to be the most screwed up folks I know.

Why do folks always default to 'Stalker', what ever happened to the word 'Admirer'?  Is it so awful to have someone think you're handsome?  Now I'm smart enough to realize things would never stand a chance, but that doesn't mean you're automatically off my 'handsome' radar.